looking for signs:

it's easy to find signs. they're always telling me what to do and where to go and how fast to do it and the right way to do it and how much i have to pay for it and what i'm going to see and what i'm going to watch and the right way i'm supposed to go and the right house and the right building and the right restaurant.

but when i really need a sign, i can never find it.
like how to parent
and how to maneuver through a sticky situation
and the correct thing to say to someone

where are those signs?
because i'm always looking for them.